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By Judith Kroll
How Far Can We Bend?
We are all extremely strong. Because we can bend we seem to take everything farther than we probably should. Life is riddled with problems that come in droves it seems, I know we all understand this. We bend to try and make things work, but we reach the breaking point, and we say, "enough". Many times we see that the problem isn't always us, it is other people who are bending us, trying to mold us to do things their way.
Family, friends, Religious leaders, Work relationships etc. all tugging and pulling us at once. And we still bend.
When do we end the bend?
It will probably never end, but we become more elastic, and
stretch farther. When we are in control of ourselves, then we can
choose when to bend, or not budge.
Saying No is hard to do, but it is necessary. Like a child,
they need protected, they need to hear the NO's and why it is a NO. For
their safety, and for our peace of mind.
But when someone is using us beyond normal, we have to learn to say Enough. We set our own boundaries.
Some folks would push us till we broke.
Love is always a factor. If we love someone we won't bend them, we would help them. But remember, we all have limits.
Think of solutions using Love and not hate. Saying no is
love for ourselves too. Then later we can help when we are ready, if it
is not toxic. Toxic people are hurtful to the soul. Some never stop
till we say stop.
Love yourself first, it truly is important.
Judith
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